How to Flirt with Women: 3 Tips For Flirting With A Woman

The 3 tips for learning how to flirt with women are: not being so “nice”, using unpredictability, and what you can do when you’re “tested.” In this article, I’m going to expand on these three flirting tips.

If you’ve tried flirting in the past, and it hasn’t worked as well as you wanted, that’s fine: what might have worked on one girl, may not work with the same girl in a different situation. Many men never get this delicate skill just right. Even worse, some guys have a very limited opening dialogue when it comes to talking to a nice girl. For example, “Would you like a drink?” “Where are you from?” and “You come here often?” make up the totality of opening questions most guys have when it comes to flirting. This is one small reason why so many guys get minimal results when it comes to flirting, attraction, and dating beautiful women.

Well, if you’re tiered of getting these lame results, and want to move past the basic eye contact, smile, and compliment stages, these 3 tips will be of great help…

How To Flirt With Women Tip #3: No More Mr. Nice Guy

In all the dating tips resources I’ve read, plus in my own experience, I keep running into variations of this theme: girls like the “bad boys” (or, are at least attracted to men who can be “bad” at times), and are almost diametrically opposed to “nice guys” (or, guys who are too, too nice). This is still quite hurtful to me, because I think that, by nature, I’m a nice guy. But anyway, the facts are the facts, and if you want to attract women fast, you have to develop a “bad boy” side (or at least stop being so nice all the time).

If you really want to successfully flirt with women, keep this fact in mind: women aren’t as attracted to nice guys are they are to “bad” guys because, in a primal sense, thy want a man who can make them feel safe. A guy who’s too nice might come off as a pussy or a wimp (even though I know I’m not, and that you’re not either). The not-so-nice guys, from a primal perspective, can defend their territory and defend the woman, too.

Try to think about it this way: how safe do you think a girl would feel around a guy who did everything the way she says they want them to? (I emphasize says because she might say one thing, but really expect something else. I get into the dynamics of this in my Attract Women Fast newsletter.)

Anyway, the woman might tend to think that such a guy is submissive and probably won’t be very good at standing up for themselves…or for her. Again, women need men who will protect them, and it’s easy to see why being the nice guy is horrible positioning for attracting women.

So, no more being the “Mr. nice guy.” That’s probably one of the most important lessons you can learn.
Once you’re past that stage, eventually, you’ll need the next flirting tip…

Flirting With Women Tip #2: Being A Bit Unpredictable

Alright, now that we’ve explored how important it is that you make her fell safe and secure, we need to balance that with anticipation and excitement. Knowing how to flirt with women is partly about keeping an air of mystery about you and keeping her guessing. And…you have to balance this with responsibility and confidence.

One of the most solid ways of doing this is to know what your values are, and sticking to them, even when she doesn’t like them. Yeah, you might lose a girl or two because of this, and that’s fine: once I show you how to get good at attracting women, you can dump the bad ones. Sticking to your values, regardless of what she says, will show that you’re not flimsy, and won’t be like most guys who try to accompany every single little thing she wishes for.

This is especially true for more attractive women, because…

…It seems that, the more beautiful and attractive a woman is, the more guys she has competing for her attention. That means she’s probably used to having guys do exactly what she wants them to do.

This is something that beautiful women are bored with, so by sticking to your values, by remaining like a strong tree that doesn’t bend according to the winds of her desires, you’ll be more unpredictable, more valued, and more exciting to be around.

In close relation to this, is our final flirting tip…

How To Flirt With Women Tip #1: Teasing Her When She “Tests” You

Now that you know how important it is NOT to do everything she wants, you might be wondering why so many women try to control their men. Here’s the truth, which seems to be so secret to guys who are clueless: She’s testing you to see if you’ll really be a man and stick with being who you are, or if you’ll be a flimsy “nice guy” and fold up like toilet paper.

That’s one reason why guys who date nice women end up being just “friends,” even though they have no idea what they did wrong (and, in most cases, probably never did anything wrong).

Now, you might be wondering, “How do I know if she’s testing me? How do I know when she really has a valid concern?”

Well, as you might guess, it’s probably easy to see these tests for what they are, because they’ll be trivial, unreasonable, or just absolutely silly.

When you find yourself wondering if she’s simply testing you or has a valid concern (both of which deserve to be responded to differently), run these according to your values and what you’ve learned from this article.

Be sure to do this before you respond.

If you find that there’s not much merit to what she’s bringing up, then it’s probably a test. A good way to respond to a test is to tease her back, in a humorous, playful way. This will put you above 90% of most men.

Of course, if she does have a valid concern, treat it accordingly.

So, in summary, stop being so nice, have a bit of mystery, and pass your test.

How To Flirt With Women: Mistakes Men Make

I Found this short, 1-minute, 46-second video for you. It shows some of the mistakes we make when we try to flirt with a girl we’re interested in:

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